A Short Guide to “In Sickness and In Health” *

1412912_not_so_healthyWe were married about one day when Tom came down with something.  Fever, chills, the usual.  Other than his seasonal allergies, I didn’t recall ever seeing him sick before.  In a couple of days we were off on our honeymoon but even before “richer or poorer” showed up, we got to practice “In Sickness or in Health.”

“Health” is a lot more fun.

Since those early days, most of the usual round of stuff has come our way along with a couple scary episodes.  Being sick at the same time is the worse part of “Better or Worse.”

Trust me, you WILL get a chance to test this vow.

How do you get through a “sick” season of marriage?

  1. If you are the healthy one, figure out your spouse’s “sick style.”  Do they want to be hovered over or left alone?  Try to comply even it is totally different from the way you would respond.
  2. If you are the sick one, let your spouse know how they can best help you get through this from buying the juice to googling the symptoms.
  3. Remember, sickness, yours or theirs, often brings out the darker side of your normally fabulous personality. Stretch yourself to get through this time whichever role you are playing and be ready with plenty of grace for each other.
  4. Focus on taking care of the sickie and keeping yourself relatively healthy.  Chores can wait or be farmed out.
  5. If the sickness is a long one, find some sources of support from friends and your faith community.
  6. Still practice the 6 phrases to say to your spouse everyday http://wp.me/pPRDV-I4  OK, “You look great might” not apply but “That’s so funny!” is a great antidote to illness.
  7. Pray for health to return and give thanks when it does.

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See you next week!

Hope for the Best,


* I am celebrating my 40th anniversary (August 18, 1973) all year and will be sharing a few things I have learned along the way on most Mondays.



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